How to Practice Self-Care as a New Mother

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While there are many surprises and challenges that await you in motherhood, one of the biggest shocks may be time management, or the feeling of being overwhelmed. No matter how happy and fulfilled you may be as a new mom, if you don’t take time out of your busy day to take care of yourself, you’re not giving your precious baby your best self. Ensuring that you practice self-care might seem like the lowest of your priorities, but being rested and cared for yourself is an essential part of being a mom.

While it will be challenging, it’s not impossible to make sure you take care of you. Below are some pointers that can help.

Get Your Sleep

While sleeping for a solid chunk of time may seem like just a dream for some, sleeping when your baby sleeps will allow you to get that much needed rest. If you’re worried that you won’t wake to baby’s cries, keep a baby monitor on your nightstand or bring the crib into your bedroom. Ignore the temptation to do chores while your baby sleeps, because it’s vital that you get your rest.

Get Dressed

While it’s tempting to wear your maternity clothes out of convenience, it will help you feel your best to have comfortable clothes that fit and make you feel confident. Get a couple of outfits that you can put on that make you feel like you are taking care of you, even if no one will see them but you!

Make Time to Shower

If you neglect the simple routine of taking a shower, it will take a toll on your mental health. To make sure you shower regularly, try creating a plan with your support system to a shower when someone is home. You can practice a visualization technique of picturing the stress, negative self-talk, guilt, etc. wash away from you. You can also just take that time to practicing grounding techniques; focus on how the water feels on your skin, smell the shampoo, see the different color in the soap bubbles, taste the water, and hear the sound of the water flowing through the shower head.

Accept Help

Regardless if you’re single or have a partner, trying to go it alone in caring for your baby is not a route I would recommend (no matter how capable you might be). You may hate to ask for or accept help, but raising a baby is a lot of work. By recruiting help, you can make sure you have enough time to not only take care of the baby, but to take care of yourself. To try and do it all yourself does nothing but put unrealistic expectations on you, giving you feelings of guilt when you’re unable to accomplish the impossible. It’s important to ask for and accept help.

Make sure your partner is making an equal effort when it comes to baby’s care, and enlist the help of family and friends. If you have a friend that loves to cook, see if they’ll cook you an occasional meal. You might also ask for help with laundry, running errands, or babysitting (even if it’s just half an hour so you can take a long hot shower.) Some cultures have their family move in, or they move into their home, to allow for them to be fully cared for during the healing of birth. This might not be something you have available to you, or even something you would want to do, but think about using your resources to ensure you are cared for post birth.


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